How to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick: The Power of Behavioral Science and Emotional Intelligence

The Resolution Dilemma

Every January, we set out with big dreams and bold goals, determined to make this year the year. Yet, for many of us, those resolutions slip away into the abyss of “next year” by the time February rolls around. Why does this happen, and more importantly, how can we ensure that this year is different?

The answer lies in understanding behavioral science and integrating emotional intelligence (EI) into your approach. Let’s explore some proven strategies to help you set meaningful resolutions and stick to them long after the New Year’s confetti has settled.

 
Step 1: Setting CLEAR & SMART Goals

The first step to achieving any resolution is setting goals that are both SMART and CLEAR.

SMART Goals: These are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-based. For example, instead of saying, “I want to exercise more,” set a goal like, “I will go to the gym three times a week for 45 minutes.”
CLEAR Goals: These incorporate Emotional Intelligence by encouraging a Collaborate, Listen, Empathize, Adapt, and Reward approach. Collaborate with others for accountability, empathize with your own challenges, adapt to setbacks, and reward yourself for progress.
Combining these methods ensures that your goals are well-defined and emotionally engaging, increasing your commitment and focus.

 
Step 2: Leverage the Fresh Start Effect

Behavioral economist Katy Milkman introduced the concept of the “fresh start effect,” which highlights how temporal landmarks like New Year’s Day motivate individuals to pursue their goals with renewed vigor.

Use this psychological phenomenon to your advantage. Start your resolutions during other meaningful milestones—birthdays, the start of a new job, or even the beginning of a new week. Each fresh start provides a psychological boost to keep you motivated and on track.

 
Step 3: Implement Temptation Bundling

Another of Katy Milkman’s insights is "temptation bundling," a strategy that involves pairing a less enjoyable task with something you love.

For instance, if you want to exercise more but struggle with motivation, only allow yourself to listen to your favorite podcast or audiobook while at the gym. This makes the activity more enticing and creates a positive association with the habit you’re trying to build.

 
Step 4: Enhance Self-Awareness and Self-Regulation

Emotional intelligence plays a crucial role in achieving long-term goals. Two key EI skills—self-awareness and self-regulation—can make or break your resolutions:

Self-Awareness: Understand your triggers and emotional patterns. Why do you procrastinate? What’s holding you back? Recognizing these patterns is the first step to overcoming them.
Self-Regulation: Develop the ability to manage your emotions and impulses. For example, when stress tempts you to abandon your goals, practice mindfulness or reframe your perspective to stay focused. 

 Step 5: Build a Support Network

Achieving resolutions is possible on your own, but it’s much easier—and more likely to succeed—when you have a strong support system. Share your goals with trusted friends, family, or colleagues who can provide encouragement and hold you accountable.

Consider joining a group or community with similar goals. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals not only keeps you motivated but also reinforces your commitment.

 
Conclusion: The Key to Resolutions That Stick

Resolutions fail when they lack structure, emotional connection, and support. By combining behavioral science techniques like SMART goals, the fresh start effect, and temptation bundling with the emotional intelligence skills of self-awareness and self-regulation, you can create a sustainable path to success.

Summary:

Set SMART and CLEAR goals to define your vision.
Use temporal landmarks to harness the fresh start effect.
Pair habits with rewards using temptation bundling.
Leverage emotional intelligence to manage emotions and stay focused.
Surround yourself with a supportive network to maintain accountability.
This year, let’s go beyond just dreaming big—let’s commit to achieving. What’s your top resolution for 2025? Let’s inspire each other to stick to our goals and make this year the one that counts.

 
Sources:

Katy Milkman, How to Change
6seconds.org: Emotional Intelligence in Goal Setting
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